Well, there ya go. How’s that for opening up? I’ve debated for months on how, when and why to share all of this. Because 10-15 years ago, you didn’t find out someone was divorced, had a new baby or started a new job until the holidays rolled around, class reunions emerged or some third party acquaintance told you while you both waited in line to get your oil changed.
But in this new age of information overload, we expect to know things immediately and even feel slighted when our high school classmate that we haven’t seen in 17 years opens their own business and we didn’t get tagged in the post. What kind of friend is that?? I digress.
I realized 2 things this year. (1) There’s a lot of hurting men in this world and (2) there’s barely anywhere for them to go. Most of us won’t divulge our feelings or fears to anyone because we feel constantly attacked in this modern day witch trial against masculinity. So we bury all of it. Only to explode on the people we love. We develop mental health problems which sadly in extreme cases, leads to suicidal thoughts and actions. Those are tactics from Hell and I believe God has given me this platform to help bring freedom. But we’re not just talking about divorce. What about loss of a career? The death of a child? The failed business venture? The abandonment of your own father? What about these tough places of deep loss that have gone unchecked and ignored for decades? It’s time to face that crap, deal with it and bring other men to the fire. Which brings me to my next point:
Divorce, loss and failure doesn’t cancel your calling. God doesn’t hate you, he doesn’t revoke your anointing and he doesn’t shun you from his presence. No, that’s what legalistic, religious, works-driven church people do. He loves you, knew this moment would happen the day he called you and STILL empowered you and equipped you to build his kingdom. That being said, you may be asking what’s the next step? Where do I go from here? How do I move forward? How do I begin again?
I’m glad you asked. Let’s get started.